LOVE IS NOT BOASTFUL. Are you? #LiveMercy! #100WaysIn100Days


Pushy and condescending? Haughty and inflated with self-importance? Puffed up while looking down on others? Stop it! God disapproves. Others do too.

It’s never too late to begin to #LiveMercy!

Learn to #GetMercy and #GiveMercy during and beyond these last 89 days of the #JubileeYearOfMercy!

89 days left…



Want mercy? Learn to get and give love fully and freely. Learn to love like God! Few admire, draw near and enjoy the company of narcissistic people who belittle others. Even God dislikes the attitude and actions of narcissists and boasters who know little about true love of God, self and others. Want to learn how to love truly? Continue pondering the reflection on 1 Corinthians 13 offered by Pope Francis in his Encyclical Letter Amoris Laetitia, On The Joy of Human Love or Love in the Family:

Love is not boastful

  1. The following word, perpereúetai, denotes vainglory, the need to be haughty, pedantic and somewhat pushy. Those who love not only refrain from speaking too much about themselves, but are focused on others; they do not need to be the centre of attention. The word that comes next – physioútai – is similar, indicating that love is not arrogant. Literally, it means that we do not become “puffed up” before others. It also points to something more subtle: an obsession with showing off and a loss of a sense of reality. Such people think that, because they are more “spiritual” or “wise”, they are more important than they really are. Paul uses this verb on other occasions, as when he says that “knowledge puffs up”, whereas “love builds up” (1 Cor 8:1). Some think that they are important because they are more knowledgeable than others; they want to lord it over them. Yet what really makes us important is a love that understands, shows concern, and embraces the weak. Elsewhere the word is used to criticize those who are “inflated” with their own importance (cf. 1 Cor 4:18) but in fact are filled more with empty words than the real “power” of the Spirit (cf. 1 Cor 4:19).
  2. It is important for Christians to show their love by the way they treat family members who are less knowledgeable about the faith, weak or less sure in their convictions. At times the opposite occurs: the supposedly mature believers within the family become unbearably arrogant. Love, on the other hand, is marked by humility; if we are to understand, forgive and serve others from the heart, our pride has to be healed and our humility must increase. Jesus told his disciples that in a world where power prevails, each tries to dominate the other, but “it shall not be so among you” (Mt 20:26). The inner logic of Christian love is not about importance and power; rather, “whoever would be first among you must be your slave” (Mt 20:27). In family life, the logic of domination and competition about who is the most intelligent or powerful destroys love. Saint Peter’s admonition also applies to the family: “Clothe yourselves, all of you, with humility towards one another, for ‘God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble’” (1 Pet 5:5).

(Amoris Laetitia, 97-98:


Lord, #MercyMe and allow me to know and show the #MisericordiaeVultus, the #FaceOfMercy to others beyond the end of the #JubileeOfMercy. We ask this through Christ our Lord. Amen.

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Martha Fernández-Sardina




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