LOVE IS NOT RUDE. #GetMercy #GiveMercy #LiveMercy! #100WaysIn100Days

LOVE IS NOT RUDE. Are we being schooled in courtesy, sensitivity, agreeableness, respect, disinterestedness, and the “otherness” that uproots rudeness and veiled antisocial behavior? You can do it! So can I. And it’s not optional, rather, Pope Francis says, it is “an essential requirement of love.” Let us learn to #GetMercy and #GiveMercy during and beyond these last few days of the #JubileeYearOfMercy!

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To live mercy we must learn to love. More. Better. Properly. Purely. Daily. Like God. Pope Francis reflects on 1 Corinthians 13 where we are exhorted to love and are reminded that love-mercy is not rude. Love teaches us to give another “the look of love” they crave, as Pope Benedict stated – a “kind look”, Pope Francis says. In place of rudeness we offer others gentleness, space, time. (Read Pope Francis’ reflection below.)

Lord, #MercyMe and allow me to know and show the #MisericordiaeVultus, the #FaceOfMercy to others beyond the end of the #JubileeOfMercy. We ask this through Christ our Lord. Amen.

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99. To love is also to be gentle and thoughtful, and this is conveyed by the next word, aschemonéi. It indicates that love is not rude or impolite; it is not harsh. Its actions, words and gestures are pleasing and not abrasive or rigid. Love abhors making others suffer. Courtesy “is a school of sensitivity and disinterestedness” which requires a person “to develop his or her mind and feelings, learning how to listen, to speak and, at certain times, to keep quiet”. It is not something that a Christian may accept or reject. As an essential requirement of love, “every human being is bound to live agreeably with those around him”. Every day, “entering into the life of another, even when that person already has a part to play in our life, demands the sensitivity and restraint which can renew trust and respect. Indeed, the deeper love is, the more it calls for respect for the other’s freedom and the ability to wait until the other opens the door to his or her heart”.

100. To be open to a genuine encounter with others, “a kind look” is essential. This is incompatible with a negative attitude that readily points out other people’s shortcomings while overlooking one’s own. A kind look helps us to see beyond our own limitations, to be patient and to cooperate with others, despite our differences. Loving kindness builds bonds, cultivates relationships, creates new networks of integration and knits a rm social fabric. In this way, it grows ever stronger, for without a sense of belonging we cannot sustain a commitment to others; we end up seeking our convenience alone and life in common becomes impossible. Antisocial persons think that others exist only for the satisfaction of their own needs. Consequently, there is no room for the gentleness of love and its expression. Those who love are capable of speaking words of comfort, strength, consolation, and encouragement. These were the words that Jesus himself spoke: “Take heart, my son!” (Mt 9:2); “Great is your faith!” (Mt 15:28); “Arise!” (Mk 5:41); “Go in peace” (Lk 7:50); “Be not afraid” (Mt 14:27). These are not words that demean, sadden, anger or show scorn. In our families, we must learn to imitate Jesus’ own gentleness in our way of speaking to one another. (Amoris Laetitia, 97-98:


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